Mike has been there with Pat for the last 90 minutes. He said he will be late picking me up as he wants to stick around for a while.
Pat talked to me for a few minutes. He had not been feeling well since Saturday. He said his blood pressure dropped to 79/64 and his pulse was 135. That doesn't sound right but I will get more info later.
Pat also told me "I don't want older brother to tell everyone about this. Its embarrassing that I have been on drugs and it's embarrassing that I have to get treatment"
I of course was kind of astonished and didn't have anything smart ass to say in reply! You know me and my mouth.
But, I am trying to take this as a good thing for him to say if a bit unusual. He did tell me I could tell Oldest Brother and Only Daughter. So, I think for now, I will not tell him about this blog. :)
And until I have a chance to talk with a drug dependencies professional, I will only ask you that you to write him encouraging notes reminding him that you are praying for him. Maybe not mention the blog at the moment....
We are thinking he will be fine. I will not be able to update until tomorrow. But Our Father knows whats going on so you can feel free to pray how He leads you.
Thank you for the help dear friends....
Monday, January 31
12:30 Monday afternoon
Pat has had a seizure and is on his way to the hospital from Detox.
When I received the call I asked what that meant. Was told that it may be that his blood pressure (which has been high) has just dropped suddenly.
I don't know any more then that.
Mike is on his way there to find out how bad it is. Right at the moment, I can't go out of fear.
He will call me when he knows more. And if I have time, I will update you.
Exact Prayer:
1. Lord to be with Pat
2. Lord to be with Doctors and nurses
Update: 1:05. The counselor just told me that this is common when coming off the drugs. His blood pressure had been high and it propably just dropped suddenly. He said that Pat had been weak then his eyes just rolled back in his head and he dropped. He said it was more of a blood pressure thing then a seizure. (Wish he had told me that at first but..)
So, thank you friends and only sister that helped me be calm for the past 40 minutes or so.
Pat may go back to Detox tonight maybe in the morning.
Mike will be getting to the hospital any minute now to check on things. I will update again when I hear anything.
My hands are not shaking as bad and I am calmer.
When I received the call I asked what that meant. Was told that it may be that his blood pressure (which has been high) has just dropped suddenly.
I don't know any more then that.
Mike is on his way there to find out how bad it is. Right at the moment, I can't go out of fear.
He will call me when he knows more. And if I have time, I will update you.
Exact Prayer:
1. Lord to be with Pat
2. Lord to be with Doctors and nurses
Update: 1:05. The counselor just told me that this is common when coming off the drugs. His blood pressure had been high and it propably just dropped suddenly. He said that Pat had been weak then his eyes just rolled back in his head and he dropped. He said it was more of a blood pressure thing then a seizure. (Wish he had told me that at first but..)
So, thank you friends and only sister that helped me be calm for the past 40 minutes or so.
Pat may go back to Detox tonight maybe in the morning.
Mike will be getting to the hospital any minute now to check on things. I will update again when I hear anything.
My hands are not shaking as bad and I am calmer.
Monday Morning
Oh Pat, the poor poor boy!
Good news is that he went back to Detox Friday after trying to go out and visit friends after Doctors appointment.
He still thinks life should not have to change for him. He believes he should get what he wants when he wants. And I should stop what ever I am doing to take care of him..
Pat wanted us to bring him things. He wanted toiletries and a towel and a picture of girlfriend and a cup and this and that and a list of things that I would have to go here and there to collect. I just said I would bring what I could as soon as I could.
Mike and I cleaned house on Saturday and by Sunday morning I had a collection of some of his things to take to him. By 9am Sunday, he was texting me, "are you coming? did you get this? why not?"
He has no idea that other people are important and may have a life that goes on when he is not in the room.
I just got a call from his counselor and he believes it is to soon for us to come in for anything. Pat is still going through detox and his body is addressing some issues. So, that was very interesting to me. Pat has been telling me that his heart rate is high and blood pressure is high. The Counselor says that is normal during this time.
Anyway, I know this does not make a lot of sense.
Points I guess I want you to know, We exercised and cleaned this weekend. We took some stuff to Pat. He is lonely and his body is adjusting to life without drugs. He will be there for at least 10 more days.(we all hope for more) then on to another facility.
If you would like to write to him you can mail it to the house and I will take it down to him. Be sure and put your name and address on the outside of the envelope. Otherwise, it would be opened. If you wish him to write back, through a self addressed stamped envelope in your letter. I have to get some stamps to him but it will be a few days before I can do that.
Things you might tell him are:
you are praying for him,
or a memory of him,
or just tell him about your day.
I write a note every day or so. I just tell him about each of the animals and that his dad and I love him. We don't address any issues or anything right now.
Exact prayer requests:
again,
1. Pat needs to learn good choices, he actually needs to learn to here his conscience again. That part of his brain that knows the difference between right and wrong has been turned off.
2. The people working with him will be led by God to help him.
3. Prayers of Thanks that Mike and I actually had made the decision to change our life and get healthier 3 full weeks before this all hit! What a blessing that we were enough into making changes that we did not just give it up and decide there was to much going on to get healthier. We are exercising and encouraging each other. We have cut salt down and working on cutting sugar. (We will deal with the fat thing another time!)
4. Prayers of Thanks for you that are reading this. You have all been praying and we feel your prayers. We also feel so encouraged when we go out and have an awesome evening with friends and can come away feeling that we had a great evening! What an awesome feeling when so much is going on that we can laugh and enjoy life still! Me, the worrier! The one that obsesses about problems! WOW!! You are great friends. We give our prayers of thanks for you so often.
THANK YOU
ps, I think the news may not change so much during the day. Maybe we are at a place that everyday will be the same. Wouldn't that be awesome.....
Good news is that he went back to Detox Friday after trying to go out and visit friends after Doctors appointment.
He still thinks life should not have to change for him. He believes he should get what he wants when he wants. And I should stop what ever I am doing to take care of him..
Pat wanted us to bring him things. He wanted toiletries and a towel and a picture of girlfriend and a cup and this and that and a list of things that I would have to go here and there to collect. I just said I would bring what I could as soon as I could.
Mike and I cleaned house on Saturday and by Sunday morning I had a collection of some of his things to take to him. By 9am Sunday, he was texting me, "are you coming? did you get this? why not?"
He has no idea that other people are important and may have a life that goes on when he is not in the room.
I just got a call from his counselor and he believes it is to soon for us to come in for anything. Pat is still going through detox and his body is addressing some issues. So, that was very interesting to me. Pat has been telling me that his heart rate is high and blood pressure is high. The Counselor says that is normal during this time.
Anyway, I know this does not make a lot of sense.
Points I guess I want you to know, We exercised and cleaned this weekend. We took some stuff to Pat. He is lonely and his body is adjusting to life without drugs. He will be there for at least 10 more days.(we all hope for more) then on to another facility.
If you would like to write to him you can mail it to the house and I will take it down to him. Be sure and put your name and address on the outside of the envelope. Otherwise, it would be opened. If you wish him to write back, through a self addressed stamped envelope in your letter. I have to get some stamps to him but it will be a few days before I can do that.
Things you might tell him are:
you are praying for him,
or a memory of him,
or just tell him about your day.
I write a note every day or so. I just tell him about each of the animals and that his dad and I love him. We don't address any issues or anything right now.
Exact prayer requests:
again,
1. Pat needs to learn good choices, he actually needs to learn to here his conscience again. That part of his brain that knows the difference between right and wrong has been turned off.
2. The people working with him will be led by God to help him.
3. Prayers of Thanks that Mike and I actually had made the decision to change our life and get healthier 3 full weeks before this all hit! What a blessing that we were enough into making changes that we did not just give it up and decide there was to much going on to get healthier. We are exercising and encouraging each other. We have cut salt down and working on cutting sugar. (We will deal with the fat thing another time!)
4. Prayers of Thanks for you that are reading this. You have all been praying and we feel your prayers. We also feel so encouraged when we go out and have an awesome evening with friends and can come away feeling that we had a great evening! What an awesome feeling when so much is going on that we can laugh and enjoy life still! Me, the worrier! The one that obsesses about problems! WOW!! You are great friends. We give our prayers of thanks for you so often.
THANK YOU
ps, I think the news may not change so much during the day. Maybe we are at a place that everyday will be the same. Wouldn't that be awesome.....
Friday, January 28
2:30 Friday
He is still making really bad choices.
He had a drs appointment today.
Was supposed to call detox and get a ride back
Instead Darling Girlfriend got a taxi to pick him up so she could see him.
I don't even know what to say.
He could get kicked out of this program.
Pray where your heart leads you.
Will not be online until Monday unless I find a computer to use somewhere
He had a drs appointment today.
Was supposed to call detox and get a ride back
Instead Darling Girlfriend got a taxi to pick him up so she could see him.
I don't even know what to say.
He could get kicked out of this program.
Pray where your heart leads you.
Will not be online until Monday unless I find a computer to use somewhere
Thursday, January 27
3pm Thursday
Pat is still in Detox. I got a call from him today saying that they wanted him to see a doctor, approve his health and to prescrip a mild tranquilizer for him. I had to make an appointment. Did that, he told me that I would need to take him and I said ok, I made arrangements and then...
Just rambles
I can put all the issues in my life into little boxes or a locker might be a better description.
8AM Thur
Pat went into Detox last night, Wed
He told me he hadn't done anything since Friday.
But, when intake asked him, he said late last night, that would have been Tues. So, he was out running around Tues night getting drugs just as Son 2 had told me.
This is the first step. Now he needs to meet with somebody to get a "Substance Abuse Eval". That is required in order for him to get a space in a program. Son 2 warns me to not get my hopes up yet. He said that people go in and out of Detox like a revolving door.
However, I choose to take this as an answer to our prayers.
Personal note, yesterday my shoulder, neck and back hurt so much I actually asked for a shot to get relieve. Family will know how hard that is for me to do. Then the Dr said that I would need some muscle relaxers. She wrote a prescription for 90!! I took one before I left the VA and 2 before bed. I was desperate. Slept really well last night and the pain in my shoulder has been relieved.
So, todays exact prayer
1. Thank the Lord Pat went into Detox and at this moment in time I am calmed.
2. Thank the Lord that I have relieve from my pain so I can continue.
3. Guidence and help with Insurance paperwork, finding a spot in a good program for Pat and that Pat will actually go.
4. The Lord will continue to work within Pat leading him to make good choices.
Thank you all for your help. I know that your prayers are working. I feel the calm and His peace every day!
He told me he hadn't done anything since Friday.
But, when intake asked him, he said late last night, that would have been Tues. So, he was out running around Tues night getting drugs just as Son 2 had told me.
This is the first step. Now he needs to meet with somebody to get a "Substance Abuse Eval". That is required in order for him to get a space in a program. Son 2 warns me to not get my hopes up yet. He said that people go in and out of Detox like a revolving door.
However, I choose to take this as an answer to our prayers.
Personal note, yesterday my shoulder, neck and back hurt so much I actually asked for a shot to get relieve. Family will know how hard that is for me to do. Then the Dr said that I would need some muscle relaxers. She wrote a prescription for 90!! I took one before I left the VA and 2 before bed. I was desperate. Slept really well last night and the pain in my shoulder has been relieved.
So, todays exact prayer
1. Thank the Lord Pat went into Detox and at this moment in time I am calmed.
2. Thank the Lord that I have relieve from my pain so I can continue.
3. Guidence and help with Insurance paperwork, finding a spot in a good program for Pat and that Pat will actually go.
4. The Lord will continue to work within Pat leading him to make good choices.
Thank you all for your help. I know that your prayers are working. I feel the calm and His peace every day!
Wednesday, January 26
1:30 Wed
Pat just texted me. He wants to do all kinds of things today again rather then go to Detox. I have a doctors appointment at the VA so I told him I have things to do and won't help him.
He has to make this a priority, I can't do it.
Prayer requests are the same as this morning I guess. I could so easily get frustrated with this but I don't get my hopes up that he will do what he says he will do. Maybe add a prayer that I can keep my spirits up the rest of the day.
He has to make this a priority, I can't do it.
Prayer requests are the same as this morning I guess. I could so easily get frustrated with this but I don't get my hopes up that he will do what he says he will do. Maybe add a prayer that I can keep my spirits up the rest of the day.
Psalms 27 and my favorite from Psalms 37
I think I need this here.
Whom shall I fear?
The LORD is the defense of my life;
Whom shall I dread?
A Psalm of Fearless Trust in God.
A Psalm of David.
1The LORD is my light and my salvation;Whom shall I fear?
The LORD is the defense of my life;
Whom shall I dread?
Wed 8:30 AM
Pat is not in Detox. They did not have any male beds by the time he said he got there.
I don't know what is going on.
His girlfriend gave him $25 yesterday. He and his buddy Joey were together for a time. Joey is part of the issue we think.
He texted me a lot yesterday late afternoon. He said he was staying out in the Valley with a friend that was worried about him. He said he has a bed in Detox this morning but that he wanted to sleep in.
On a positive note. The Insurance company provided us with an Individual Claims Manager. She seems wonderful!! She found a place in Naches that I would like to look into. It is a 30 day center then it steps down to a half way house.
I don't know what is going on.
His girlfriend gave him $25 yesterday. He and his buddy Joey were together for a time. Joey is part of the issue we think.
He texted me a lot yesterday late afternoon. He said he was staying out in the Valley with a friend that was worried about him. He said he has a bed in Detox this morning but that he wanted to sleep in.
On a positive note. The Insurance company provided us with an Individual Claims Manager. She seems wonderful!! She found a place in Naches that I would like to look into. It is a 30 day center then it steps down to a half way house.
Tuesday, January 25
Is he on his way?
I don't know. I don't know anything at this point.
Except that he spent the night at his girlfriends place. I hope she didn't give him any money!!
She is really mad at me because she believes I told her mother that Pat was there. Now she says she is locked out of her house. Umm, maybe there is another issue going on with her.
A friend of Pats told me he was on his way to pick up Pat and take him to Detox. That was about 90 minutes ago. I don't know where he is but now we can't get ahold of his friend either.
UGH!
I have to leave this in Gods hands too!
Why don't I have any control of this situation?
I hate that Lord is always reminding me that it is in his control!
I love that Lord is always reminding me that it is in his control!
Prayer for 3 pm Tuesday....that he arrives at Detox!
If no word by 4, besides having all my hair pulled out, I will pray that I hold strong. Not allow him in the house, not allow him to harress me.
Zumba tonight. Maybe prayer should be that I am able to move fast enough to get a really good work out!
Except that he spent the night at his girlfriends place. I hope she didn't give him any money!!
She is really mad at me because she believes I told her mother that Pat was there. Now she says she is locked out of her house. Umm, maybe there is another issue going on with her.
A friend of Pats told me he was on his way to pick up Pat and take him to Detox. That was about 90 minutes ago. I don't know where he is but now we can't get ahold of his friend either.
UGH!
I have to leave this in Gods hands too!
Why don't I have any control of this situation?
I hate that Lord is always reminding me that it is in his control!
I love that Lord is always reminding me that it is in his control!
Prayer for 3 pm Tuesday....that he arrives at Detox!
If no word by 4, besides having all my hair pulled out, I will pray that I hold strong. Not allow him in the house, not allow him to harress me.
Zumba tonight. Maybe prayer should be that I am able to move fast enough to get a really good work out!
Monday, January 24
Pat is out of jail
Well, Pat was released from jail. Son 1 made arrangements for him to go to Detox tonight. Son 2 picked him up and on the way Pat got out of the truck and said he would not go. I told Son 2 to just drive away and leave him. It is cold and wet outside. Sounds like he needs prayer tonight again, still.
Oh, this will be so much fun....
Well, I have it set up. I welcome all comments here.
Some answers before they are asked.
1. My Pat loves animals! Thus, the puppy of the day and the fish added as gadgets. Enjoy them as much as Pat would.
2. As you all know, I am a selfish horrible person that doesn't enjoy sharing so, comment all you want here and when you see me on Facebook, let's not mention it. Horrible I know but, who wants to see their therapists out on the street?
3. Please excuse my spelling. Right now, I am using a friends little tiny net book because mine is in the pawn shop along with everything else. Older Brother wants to help me get it out but I don't know what the police will and won't allow. That is all an excuse however, I am just a really horrible speller! Feel free to point out what you feel the need to point out, I may or may not pay attention. ( see #2)
4.If you don't know me and feel the need to tell me what a horrible person I am, see #2 above.
5. I think of Pat as the young boy I missed in my life before he was even born, not what he has become, I may need to be reminded of that some times. Comment away!
Love you for taking the time out of your day to join me in prayer to save the life of that boy I have loved for so long.....
Some answers before they are asked.
1. My Pat loves animals! Thus, the puppy of the day and the fish added as gadgets. Enjoy them as much as Pat would.
2. As you all know, I am a selfish horrible person that doesn't enjoy sharing so, comment all you want here and when you see me on Facebook, let's not mention it. Horrible I know but, who wants to see their therapists out on the street?
3. Please excuse my spelling. Right now, I am using a friends little tiny net book because mine is in the pawn shop along with everything else. Older Brother wants to help me get it out but I don't know what the police will and won't allow. That is all an excuse however, I am just a really horrible speller! Feel free to point out what you feel the need to point out, I may or may not pay attention. ( see #2)
4.If you don't know me and feel the need to tell me what a horrible person I am, see #2 above.
5. I think of Pat as the young boy I missed in my life before he was even born, not what he has become, I may need to be reminded of that some times. Comment away!
Love you for taking the time out of your day to join me in prayer to save the life of that boy I have loved for so long.....
History
I was a stay at home mother, except for that little duty called Reserves.
I was activated in 2001 and only went 500 miles away.
However, my husband was a RN with a traveling clinic (Do you read traveling circus?)
We had set up arrangements for Son 2 and Son 3 to go to friends if I ever got activated. Lucky us!
I went, the boys were dramatized and life turned to C&^9 after that.
I was activated in 2001 and only went 500 miles away.
However, my husband was a RN with a traveling clinic (Do you read traveling circus?)
We had set up arrangements for Son 2 and Son 3 to go to friends if I ever got activated. Lucky us!
I went, the boys were dramatized and life turned to C&^9 after that.
Info I sent out today
Hello friends and family,
The last several days has been.....
well, I can't even find the right words to explain that feeling.
As many of you know and some of you don't, Thursday we kind of hit the wall. The newest and last of our "things" went missing with absoulutly no reason. The new chainsaw and my computer just vanished.
By Friday, Mike was calm enough to file a police report naming Son 3, Pat as the thief. ( I am very proud of him btw, he did things no father should have to do and did them well)
Within an hour he had a call back saying this that and many other things had been pawned.
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